5 Uncomfortable Truths I am Learning Right Now

Lauren Sullivan
5 min readSep 14, 2022
Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

I turn 27 years old in 3 weeks and I have it far from ‘all figured out.’ What 27 year old does anyway?

At this phase in my life, everyday feels like a walk on a tightrope. Trying to balance all that life has to throw me is exhausting. But it is essential to reflect on how much of this balancing act is simply what you make it.

Here’s the thing — with as much as I’m trying to balance at 27 years old — work, friends, family, money, health, social life, mentality etc — I’m also equally as excited to start saying ‘fuck it’ more. There’s a newfound freedom that comes with your late 20s — like your naive early 20s are far behind you and your habit of putting other people before yourself is finally coming to an end.

This new feeling, combined with coming off 3 years of pandemic living — you can say I’m ready to start a new chapter. I’m ready to not be so comfortable all the time. And with this newly shifted mindset, comes a heightened sense of vulnerability in swallowing some difficult hard truths.

1. No one cares about you as much as you think.

This may sound harsh. But at its core, the message is liberating. All the imagined judgments from other people on the decisions in your life are just that — your imagination at play. Other people may have fleeting thoughts about you or your circumstances, but at the end of the day, they really are only reflecting those thoughts back on themselves.

Think about when you have fleeting judgments of other people — you may have a brief thought or a quick assumption about them, but then it’s gone and you’re back in your own head. Don’t let the perception of judgment stop you from taking big risks in your life and exposing yourself to potential failure. No one’s really looking at you. No one really cares.

2. Whether you believe you can or you can’t — you’re right.

I’m still reminding myself everyday that my inner dialogue is my life experience. This seems simple on the surface, but actually doing the work of re-learning how to talk to yourself can be a lonely and frustrating journey. The frustrating part is that thoughts can come up at any time and are unpredictable by…

Lauren Sullivan

A millennial living in Manhattan, eating too much sushi, and writing until 2am.