Start Doubting Yourself

Lauren Sullivan
3 min readSep 1, 2021
Photo by Md Mahdi on Unsplash

We live in a world that praises decisiveness. Feeling uncertain is associated with being weak. As if lacking conviction holds you back from self growth and long-term development. Why is it that we envy people who rise to every occasion with unwavering confidence? Why is doubting ourselves conceivably bad? And being certain is inherently good?

Society presents it simply — if you doubt yourself and your decisions, then you don’t know what you want. If you’re riddled with questions and speculation, then you lack the confidence to make any real progress forward.

What always bugs me about this narrative is that it is so one-dimensional. Like making decisions is like waking up in the morning — you just do it the same way every time. But decisions aren’t so simple — especially the important ones. Each decision is unique in the fact that there are different circumstances and impacts around each one. Some decisions affect hundreds of people and real lives. Some have financial impacts. Some can alter the course of your own life. Some can shift long-held opinions and perspectives.

If we approach each circumstance in our life with absolute certainty, we will miss out on the learning that comes with self-reflection in the face of pressure.

The process of sitting and contemplating our own belief system around important decisions helps us…

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Lauren Sullivan

A millennial living in Manhattan, eating too much sushi, and writing until 2am.